what to do when one of my closest friends are drifting away

what do i do when one of my closest friends is slowly drifting apart from our social group;

she has been very iritable lately.She lashes out at the smallest thing. I honestly love her to death she is so cool and fun. We may have had a bad times and our good times. I do not know what to do now it's getting really hard to hang out with her and it gets very awkward when we are all around each other. I LOVE ALL HER FAULTS except all her goods are even better lol she is so much fun to be around always making me laugh .

Drifting away

That's what it feels like

The group i knew is now

Drifting Away

Nothing is right anymore

The one friend,

I know and love,

Is falling deeper into darkness

I want to help her

But nothing can be done

when I look at her

I see no faith or hope

I miss her

But as each day passes

She falls deeper and deeper

Into the pit of darkness

I know he's hurting

But I won't say so

I don't know

How to help her

My friends,

I know and love,

They're all

Drifting Away

I can't help either one

Becaouse i fall and fall

And can't get back

From Drifting Away

My friends and I

Are still good friends

But one of them

Is farther away

We're all going our paths

But one friend

Took the wrong path

And is now Drifting Away

idk what to do now someone help

friendship

This goes out to all my friends i love you guys even though everything may not be perfect it is between us.

So many people say that you won’t amount to anything, you won’t make it, you won’t succeed- unless you’re on your own. But those people forget the heroes standing behind them- the unsung warriors- the brave fighters and peacemakers- who make life what it is. These people are friends, compadres, amigos, amis and even the chums- add the vibrancy and color to this world that is otherwise a monotone black and white. These people- who no matter what is wrong and what they are doing, support you every step of the way and hold you up when you’re falling.Ladies and gentlemen, never forget these people watching you, guarding you through life’s hardships. They will be your light, your happiness to guide you through this never ending darkness. If soon forgotten, the marks- and sometimes even the scars- these people cast on your heart will still exist, though their reasoning may be lost. Everyone you meet- every single person impacts you in some way, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem at the time. Then there are those people- the special people to touch your heart- who leave marks so big or so deep on your soul, that you could never forget their mark no matter how much you try. These people will hold the greatest impact on your life and whose presence will stick with through all times. There marks aid to characterize who you are and how your life will go.These heroes will be able to tell you what’s wrong, even though you may not know it yourself. The look in your eyes- they see through your lies, even if they blind you. You can tell them you’re fine- straight face lie- and they’ll see straight through it. You can’t fool them, can’t trick them- they know you too well. Don’t even try it- it’s not worth the effort.They are your sunshine, your hope, your light. You can’t let them extinguish or you’ll extinguish yourself. You need them to hold you together- to hold your seams together while you’re breaking apart. They’ll hold you when you break down and cry. They’ll share your pain- no matter rough it may be or how much you hurt. These fighters just want to bring your pain to a halt and make sure no matter what- you’ll be okay.They will listen to your problems, and give advice when you can’t find it in your own heart- even when the truth may not be what you want to hear. They’ll do anything- no matter how silly and crude- just to make you smile.Your flaws are embraced- these amigos know you aren’t perfect. They’ll accept you for who you are- even if they disagree with who you are or what you do.You can call them- any time of day- rain or shine- just to have someone to talk to, to cry to.They will take you out and treat you, just to make sure you’re fed and well.These warriors become your everything and consume what you thought life was.Please, remember these everyday heroes who have done so much for your life. They are here for you- they would even die for you- how could you even begin to toss them away? Something so simple that becomes to embody something even greater- something that almost seems not human. These kind creatures- uncaring about themselves and more forgiving than even the earth itself- are what make life special and worth living. The earth needs the sun to light up its surface, just as we need the friends and family who are watching our backs. Please, I beg of you, don’t let this earthly wonder slip you by. Embrace the ones you love, and who love you. Don’t let that soft flame extinguish. Hold it and protect it from the impending storm. Who knows when you’ll need these heroes later, or when they’ll need you- but no matter what, don’t let the true miracles that have come into your life slip away.

"Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born."- Anais Nin

if you guys/girls have any comments or concerns please give me an idea im always OPEN EARS

VIRGINITY

Virginity for boys why is it such a big deal ? If your a virgin or not what's the deal? Gosh this topic is gonna be so awkward to write about but imma put it all out there the way i feel!!!This is the honest truth please don't get offended because of any of the comments here because I am writing about my own experiences tooo......Why is it when it comes to girls virginity it is a big deal because when she is a virgin she is holy but when a girl is not she is a rat.Now if it is a guy he has to have already done sometype of sexual activity.Well most of the time this is the case when your a virgin other boys{men} are like ''like wtf why is he a virgin he can't get it or etc.''As i was on the phone y friend asked me ''Why Do most teenage boys think that virginity is a bad thing?HERES THE SATRIGHT UP ANSWER.Teenage boys definitely think it's a bad thing for themselves to be virgins.This is true for two reasons. 1.) Teenage boys are hornier than any woman can probably comprehend. Therefore, being a virgin is awful because it means that they haven't gotten sex yet. Also, if they haven't gotten it yet, it makes them unsure of their ability to get it EVER. 2.) It's not cool to be a virgin if you're a teenage boy. This is pretty much the case because all boys know that every other boy is as horny as they are and wants sex. So if a boy hasn't had sex, it implies that he can't get sex. Since boys know that a virgin wants to get laid but can't, it implies that he's dorky. It's hard being a teenage boy because it's very difficult for them to get laid. Teenage girls always seem to be "not ready" or "waiting for it to be special" or still holding on to dreams to "saving" themselves for marriage. So boys have a very difficult time of losing their virginity.This is the opposite of teenage girls' experience, where they typically have boys hounding them for sex. Because of this, girls are praised for "making the wise choice" of waiting to have sex- because in actuality sex can lead to pregnancy and disease. Since girls have guys willing to screw them constantly, they have the luxury of waiting until they are "ready" and then choosing to lose their virginity.This brings up the reason for the double standard of men getting praised for having a lot of sex partners while women get criticized. It is because women are hard to get sex from and men have a huge desire to have sex constantly. So men who manage to get sex from a lot of women have accomplished every man's dream. But women have sex at their finger tips constantly, so being highly promiscuous is no amazing feat of accomplishment and is almost like an abuse of power.Back to virginity. I always say: Boys lose their virginity when they finally get lucky after years of longing for sex. Girls lose their virginity when they finally decide to allow a boy/man to do it with her after years of turning guys down.Sorry if I went on too long, but you said you wanted people's thoughts on the subject. So I gave you mine.


please im open ears what do you have to say?

What is the title of PERFECT?
Well in most cases PERFECT means conforming absolutely to the description or definition of an ideal type: a perfect wife; a perfect gentleman. whats your definition of perfect?Is it the ideal man or woman?Well to me in society nothing is perfect because if something is perfect, there has to be something off.Why does society want everything to be perfect?In most cases is beause they want to hide everything that is wrong like in the community or in themelves for that matter.But why must everything be perfect?Perfectionism is a form of anxiety. You feel like you need to be perfect because you are afraid of what people will think if you aren't. The thought of having people find out what a fraud and a failure you really are (in your opinion) could send you into a panic attack.Being a perfectionist is both good and bad. Having high standards and doing your best is a good thing, but making yourself sick with worry because of a minor mistake or avoiding things you enjoy because you might not be the best at it is not healthy. Anxiety and stress from perfectionist beliefs can cause health problems, including heart disease. The goal is to find balance between the positive aspects of perfectionism and the harmful reactions to or beliefs behind perfectionism.Yes balance,balance is the key. Everything must not be perfect but you can get close enough to perfect as possible and be happy but no pople just can't comprehend that concept and just get over themselves.Making yourself sick over nothing because you want to be perfect,Honestly is that really neccasary?

Dedicated to all these people who want to be perfect?

Perfect

I am perfect,

I am not perfect, but I am playing a game pretending that I am perfect.

I play the game with people because I think that they want me to be perfect.

Playing the game is hard work because the more I play the more I think people expect me to be perfect

And the more I am reminded that I am not perfect.

The more I play, the more other people think that I think I’m perfect.

The more people think that I think I’m perfect, the more they are reminded that they are not perfect.

The more they are reminded that they are not perfect, the more inadequate they feel and the more they

Feel that they need to play a game pretending that they are perfect, too

Pretty soon, we are all perfect.We are not perfect, but we are all playing a game pretending that we are perfect

.We play that we are strong, that we are smart, that we are brave, that we have everything under control.

We are all playing a game.

We are playing at not playing a game, but we are playing a game.

Playing the game is hard work.

But admitting that it is hard work would be admitting that we are really not perfect, but only playing a game pretending to be perfect.

Because if we were really perfect then it would not be hard.But it is hard.

It is hard because we are not perfect.

Not being perfect is easy,But when everyone else is playing the game pretending to be perfect, it is hard.

What would happen if we stopped playing the game and simply accepted not being perfect?

If we admitted that we are not always strong, or smart, or brave,That we don’t always have everything under control?

What would they say?

Would they say, “Don’t bother us with your imperfections, we are busy,We are playing being perfect and you don’t fit in.”?

Or would they see our imperfections and feel close to us.

Close because sometimes they feel the same way.

Close because we really share the same “imperfections”.

Is it possible that we are playing being perfect to be accepted and loved,But that we will only find acceptance and love When we stop playing the game?

It takes a lot of courage to stop playing the game.

Congratulations for having the courage.

To me, you are perfect.

memory of my friends who have come and gone!!!!!

Backstabber-to attempt to discredit (a person) by underhanded means, as innuendo, accusation, or the like.

Backstabber,and liar is all i can think about right now.How many of us have been hurt by a supposed friend?Someone you trusted, put all your faith into and they sit there and take it as if it is easy for us to give it away.I have been hurt now one too many times in my life for this to happen to me again!!!!the cliqs,besties,enemies,cool kids,jocks,cheerleaders,goths,and etc. They're all the same can you trust any of them? They can take the trust out of everything.Friends like everyone else says come and go!!!But should you let them?honestly these days as a very wise person once said to me ''life's rough nowadays''this comment is so true.People can smile in your face an be like omqqqq we're gonna be best friends for life.Then you see them and your significant other hook up or them talking shit about you behind your back. Is there a way we can weed out the friends from the rats?How do you know when you truly have someone good with you to trust and be trusted with?You see most people who are popular think they have so many friends but for every small thing those supposed friends go back and talk shit about you. Do you think you are trustworthy enough to have a best friend who trust you?Honestly most of us aren't until we've been hurt as well. WELL WHEN YOU FIND A FRIEND YOU CAN TRUST SOMEONE PLEASE COME AND GET ME I WOU;LD LOVE TO MEET ANOTHER TRUSTWORTHY PERSON BESIDES THE ONLY TWO PEOPLE I KNOW CLARIBEL AND MYSELF.

THIS POEM IS DEDICATED TO ALL WHO HAVE BEEN HURT BY A FRIEND!!!!

I told my secrets,

You told your lies,

I told you your my bestfriend,

Yor heart told me to die.

You hated me,

So why dont i hate you back,

bestfriends forever,Whatever happen to that?

Your turning into a lie,

Not the friend i use to know,

Your not my friend,

But you dont belive me,

You think your loved,

But everyone really hates you,

how can you be so blind?

the path to enlightenment may not be so enlighting!!!!

Weed is it actualy an escape? Or is it just a cop-out so you don't have to deal with real life


Cannabis, also known as marijuana[1] or marihuana,[2] or ganja (from Hindi/Sanskrit: गांजा gañjā, hemp),[3] is a psychoactive drug extracted from the plant Cannabis sativa, or more often, Cannabis sativa subsp. indica. The herbal form of the drug consists of dried mature flowers and subtending leaves of pistillate (female) plants. The resinous form, known as hashish,[4] consists primarily of glandular trichomes collected from the same plant material. The major biologically active chemical compound in cannabis is Δ9-tetrahydrocannabinol (delta-9-tetrahydrocannabinol), commonly referred to as THC.Bascicaly the definiton of weed.The reason I am writing this is because right now it is 2;50 am and my brother and cousin are outside smoking it up having a great time with weed.So I approch them with a question"what does weed actually do for you ?"their response is"?" becuase they had no clue what I said because they are wasted or high in general terms. The reason beind this is beause im begginning to see something called addiction which is The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive physical dependence or psychological dependence, such as: drug addiction, video game addiction, crime, money, alcoholism, work addiction,compulsive overeating, problem gambling, computer addiction, pornography addiction, etc.Yes drug abuse an physical dependence to me I don't like that because im begginning to get scared that my two most favorite family memebers I look up to most are gonna either die or end up in jail.I honestly am at a loss for words whe I see them buy or when I see them rolling up that blunt. I don't know how to talk to them about it because the voice inside my head saying'' what if they get angry?'' or 'what if they don't trust me enough to talk to me after I tell the how I feel?'' these questions eat me up inside everyday.Theres only one good thing that came out of them smoking is that they are my inspiration for me to never smoke or drink so that I can live a good and healthy lifestyle. But I also want them to be healthy tooo idk what to do.



this poem is dedicated to my brother joseph and cousin pedro

Roll it.
Light it.
Breathe together now.
Inhale.
Hold it.
And three -- and two -- and one.
Exhale.
Control the coughing.
Big happy smiles, boys!
Hold your tummies in.
OK, all together now...
Breathe deep.
Inhale.
Hold it.
And three -- and two -- and one.
Exhale.
Stop that coughing.
Big smiles.
Look happy, boys!
Release the tension.
Now you've done it!
You're stoned -- on dope.
OK, let's take it from the top.
Chests out.
Tummies in.
Breathe together now.
Inhale.
Hold it. And three -- and two -- and one!


~CHRISTUHFER

IM OPEN EARS

why do i feel like this ?

Invisibility is the state of an object which cannot be seen. An object in this state is said to be Invisible (literally, "not visible"). The term is usually used as a fantasy/science fiction term, where objects are literally made unseeable by magical or technological means; however, its effects can also be seen in the real world, particularly in physics and perceptional psychology.Invisible thats how i feel.Thinking no one can hear,see,feel, and touch me.I feel like this mostly at home ever since my brothers and sisters have come back home(that's a long story).My mom just dosen't pay attention and says that every little thing i do is to make her life a living hell and itz just tears me up inside but itsz worse when it happens at school.People disregard me. They don’t hear me and forget I ever said anything. They even ignore me outright. It’s frightening sometimes how obvious it is that no one remembered I was there at all. Strangers stare at me because of the way that I dress, but then forget my existence entirely. Friends tell stories to me about things they did with other people, and then are surprised when I tell them that I know what happened because I was there.Like I try my best to think im not invisible but its get harder and harder everyday.Like it says in the blog ''Friends tell stories to me about things they did with other people, and then are surprised when I tell them that I know what happened because I was there.''the reason behind my url and display name is beacuse i will be standing right in a crowd and no one will notice i am there and they will say things then try to hide them from me using code words and secret language thinking i don;t know what they are talking about when honestly i do, I just don't care.unknown-intelligence the reason for that is beacuse HELLOO I know so much but speak so little and it gets hard because these people could be talking shit about me in code and i wouldn't know it and i could be a jerk and put you on blast but i don't

thats where open ears came into play i g2g now bye

~CHRISTUHFER

IM OPEN EARS

love

Love;when you hear that what do you think ?well in the dictionary love is defined as .....---------->

Love is any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection and attachment. The word love can refer to a variety of different feelings, states, and attitudes, ranging from generic pleasure to intense interpersonal attraction. The word love is both a verb and a noun. Love is not a single feeling but an emotion built from two or more feelings. Anything vital to us creates more than one feeling, and we also have feelings about our feelings (and thoughts about our feelings). This diversity of uses and meanings, combined with the complexity of the feelings involved, makes love unusually difficult to consistently define, even compared to other emotional states.Well right there it basically states love is an undescriable feeling when you are with your significant other.The reason i am writing about love is beacuse i think some people may think they are in love but most people are usually in love for the time-being BUT LOVE isn't actually when you and your lover can have intimate conversations or just great sex.Love is when your heart races when you see your lover,when you and your significant other are sitting in a room and you begin to sweat and get all nervous and get all choked up and cant say a word.BUT when you look each other in the eye and you see a flame there not a spark a flame.I cant say i have been in love before but i can say i thought i was in love but i was in love for the wrong reasons.Im just trying to tell everyone who supposidly says their in LOVE to rethink their definiton of LOVE because what your thinking could be the complete oppsite of your significant other and im not saying that is bad thing but you just need to be on somewhat of the same page.This is the way you can tell you and your lover are in LOVE is when guys have each others back no matter the consequence ,like the vows say in richer or poorer,sickness or health, basically stating you should always have your lovers back.Til' death do you part now that i know may be difficult but its worth it in the long run becuase like if your gonna get married you should get married with someone you LOVE because marrige should eb a one time thing like i hate it when poeple get divoreced buh im rambling now so imma gonna go now

~peace

im open ears

claribel

You see that girl right there thats one person i can call a best friend.ON another blog i read people take friends for granted and honestly that hit the spot right there . Me and Claribel have been through so much and people have come in between us to the point where me and her did not talk for weeks and the thing is we use to be unseperable like people didnt know me as Chris they knew me as CHRIS and CLARIBEL I don't think you know but a very smart intelligent (loud) person named Spencer actually was the one who inspired me to do this because the way he feels about his best friends and how he says people need to learn the difference between best friends and aquintances because when you can't go to your friend about something that is bothering you without them saying something to make the situation worse i don't think they are your friend. As i read that i thought to myself ''wow''. I thuoght that statement basically calls all my friends aquintances except for ONE. And that is that girl right there she is the only person who i can walk to.honestly i will put myself on blast and i told claribel when i lost my v-card she told me she was disappointed because she was proud of me being one of the only boys she knew who was a virgin.Me and her have been through so much shit like damn we have walked in 0 degree below wheather from classical to washington park (3 miles btw).We've had each other backs for the longest times like all the secrets we have like cant explain the trust that we have for each other.we have so many insiders like its so funny like when she was in the girls lockerroom and someone walked in she did some tpe of bark and fell to the floor and like ''what if the hospital is closed?"lmao like so many more it would take a few days to wrte them all down.Wow i forgot to tell you how i met her.So what happened its september 7th, 2007 and thats when mrs.battey said we have student elections coming up and me and her were running,I was running for president (i lost btw )and she signed up for treasurer (she lost too)and we were sitting in homeroom and me and her we're just staring at each other until she got up and said can you sign my paper and i said yeah but you have to sign mines too and also campaign for me and she said fine but you do the same lol i know its dumb but thats how we met lmao.

honsestly i love claribel with all my heart she is my family and if anyone ever tries to hurt her i will fuck them up sorry to be so mean but itsz true .

~christuhfer